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KNOW yourself so you can “NO!” them.

The beautiful thing about coming to that level of self-awareness is that once you are there, you are UNSHAKEABLE and UNBREAKABLE. But, it takes work, which involves uncomfortable honesty with self.

Shhh! This is PURE MATH.

The pandemic did many things that hurt, but it also provided access we wouldn’t normally have. For me, I was able to have intermittent fly-on-the-wall experiences with my daughter’s classroom shenanigans and serious discussions. Having to go to work and school from home gave many parents that type of access, regardless of how big orContinue reading “Shhh! This is PURE MATH.”

GET A “PEACE”….. PLEASE!

The pandemic did more than wreak havoc. It changed my trajectory and forced me to operate outside of my usual modus operandi – to take control of my potential and create according to God’s instruct. With this, the experiences of the pandemic were translated to about thirteen pandemic-related poems. At last minute, I decided thatContinue reading “GET A “PEACE”….. PLEASE!”

NUFF SELF-RESPECT!

Respecting oneself is applicable across every single interaction we will have had in our lifetime. When we disrespect ourselves by “showing up” to situations that do not serve us, we are teaching people how to disrespect us. Be reminded, though, that “showing up” is not only specific to actual events, but giving people access to treat us in ways that go against who we are in Christ. We are encouraged to stop letting greed, lust, lack, fear, status, etc., force us to disrespect ourselves.

MY GREATEST LOVE AFFAIR….

‘Tis the night before, and the world is preparing for the day when everyone gets to express how they feel about and to their loved ones. Men and women, boys and girls everywhere are waiting, with bated breath, to receive those tangible expressions, so that they can ascertain the extent to which they are loved/appreciated/desired. Continue reading “MY GREATEST LOVE AFFAIR….”

A word series: “INCONSEQUENTIAL”

I found the perfect work outfit, this time in a jiffy. The blouse was easy to iron – the trousers, not so much, but all I needed to do was to get the extra creases out. Nobody’s gonna know … how will they know…? Once I have sat down to drive and have gotten up,Continue reading “A word series: “INCONSEQUENTIAL””

Unmasking the GBV Variant

The person who suffers psychological, financial and emotional abuse often feels lost and unaccounted for within a system that doesn’t give much room to speak about the trauma of this abuse variant. Within the context of Gender-Based Violence (GBV), what does a person have to complain about when they are not being physically harmed, right?Continue reading “Unmasking the GBV Variant”

WHAT CHOICE DO I HAVE?!

The universe has a way of aligning us with the things that matter and revealing to us those that do not. Interestingly, the concept of CHOICE-MAKING has been chasing me in the last four months and presenting itself as the core of human existence – or at least an existence that is free from unnecessaryContinue reading “WHAT CHOICE DO I HAVE?!”

A Cliché Survival of 2021

By the end of 2020, everyone suddenly became a soothsayer and was foretelling what 2021 would entail. As future-telling designers, we dressed 2021 in all sorts of pandemic-ending garbs and pre-celebrated all the things that we believed would have followed. But 2021, like the woman who refuses quit with her three offsprings in tow, strippedContinue reading “A Cliché Survival of 2021”

SMILE AND NOD!

One of the first things a person does before addressing a group is to find out about the audience. For example, what is their educational background, what do they know about the topic, are these experts in the field, etc.? We must also determine what it is that we are hoping to achieve. When weContinue reading “SMILE AND NOD!”