Parenting, an emotionally rewarding and challenging task, entails a mix of unconditional love, introspection, self-awareness, honesty… The process requires constant adjustment, especially as children transition to adulthood, necessitating balance, respect for new boundaries, and room for evolution.
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SHAME, ON YOU!
Those who use shame as a weapon are often very strategic at their shame-attempts to destroy you and will not stop until they see or feel that you are mentally decapitated.
“TRANSACTIONAL NECESSITY” – Take it or leave it!
All relationships do not require depth. Some are classified as an interaction to serve a purpose – to help you achieve that which you desire (temporary gratification or a long-term goal). It could be as simple as getting ice-cream at your favourite parlour or the one you have with your supervisor/boss/coworker. Once we understand whatContinue reading ““TRANSACTIONAL NECESSITY” – Take it or leave it!”
A MOVIE AND ME-TIME
I was in a public setting having a light-hearted chat with a friend of sorts and another person I just met. As most impromptu chats go, one topic led to the next, and we started chatting about movies. It was revealed that I had gone to see Equalizer 3 by my lonesome. Amid sharing my utterContinue reading “A MOVIE AND ME-TIME”
The Dangers of Forgiveness
Many solid-appearing relationships (platonic, romantic, etc.) are sustained by different motivations that do not require any depth or real considerations of forgiveness when things go awry. Then there are those relationships where there are regular emotional check-ins with private and public acts of respect. In these relationships, people hold themselves and their “relationship partners” accountableContinue reading “The Dangers of Forgiveness”
He is huMAN; let him cry!
I happened upon a snippet of a poem by T’Sleeveless on Instagram, called “Teach A Boy To Cry”. The few lines I heard caught my attention, so I went in search and found it in its entirety. The poem, so raw and beautifully executed, articulates what I have always argued to be how most menContinue reading “He is huMAN; let him cry!”
KNOW yourself so you can “NO!” them.
The beautiful thing about coming to that level of self-awareness is that once you are there, you are UNSHAKEABLE and UNBREAKABLE. But, it takes work, which involves uncomfortable honesty with self.
Shhh! This is PURE MATH.
The pandemic did many things that hurt, but it also provided access we wouldn’t normally have. For me, I was able to have intermittent fly-on-the-wall experiences with my daughter’s classroom shenanigans and serious discussions. Having to go to work and school from home gave many parents that type of access, regardless of how big orContinue reading “Shhh! This is PURE MATH.”
GET A “PEACE”….. PLEASE!
The pandemic did more than wreak havoc. It changed my trajectory and forced me to operate outside of my usual modus operandi – to take control of my potential and create according to God’s instruct. With this, the experiences of the pandemic were translated to about thirteen pandemic-related poems. At last minute, I decided thatContinue reading “GET A “PEACE”….. PLEASE!”
NUFF SELF-RESPECT!
Respecting oneself is applicable across every single interaction we will have had in our lifetime. When we disrespect ourselves by “showing up” to situations that do not serve us, we are teaching people how to disrespect us. Be reminded, though, that “showing up” is not only specific to actual events, but giving people access to treat us in ways that go against who we are in Christ. We are encouraged to stop letting greed, lust, lack, fear, status, etc., force us to disrespect ourselves.
PARENTING, ADVOCACY AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN 